Anne and Jacob

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We would like you to know that you are very brave for making an adoption plan. While we do not know the emotional roller coaster that you are currently on in your journey, we can tell you that we have dealt with our own ups and downs while attempting to build our family. We respect the choice you are considering for your child and know that the decision you may be making does not come easily. We want you to know that we will love, support, care for and do everything we can for your child to make sure they are happy and well taken care of. We want to help them pursue their dreams and accomplish the goals that they set for themselves. Whether you are interested in an open adoption, a semi-open adoption, or would prefer a closed adoption, we respect your decision and welcome that decision as part of our lives. We have a lot of love to share and would be honored to welcome your child into our family and our home. Thank you for considering us as potential adoptive parents.

Current occupations: Jacob works as an E-Commerce Specialist in the marketing department of the corporate headquarters of SpartanNash, a local grocery company. His daily tasks include website management of an online grocery shopping site.

Anne works as the Assistant Director for Student Employment at Grand Valley State University within the Office of Financial Aid & Scholarships. She helps manage the Federal Work Study program and also has various financial aid processing responsibilities.

Anne plans to take a 6-8 week leave and Jacob plans to take a 1-2 week leave to spend time with the baby following placement. Both Jacob and Anne plan to return to work full time (Monday through Friday), but with the flexibility to work from home if an illness arises. The child would attend a licensed childcare center during working hours where they can grow, learn, and interact with other children their age.

Jacob: A caring, empathetic, and kind individual. Anne: A respectful, patient, and loving person.

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Our Relationship <3: We grew up together. Anne was a year ahead of Jacob in school. We dated for some time in middle/high school and then broke up. We were both young and wanted to experience life as individuals not in a relationship for a while. We began talking more frequently again once Jacob went on a college tour to the university that Anne was attending and they visited each other while he was there. We rekindled our relationship the summer just after Jacob’s senior year of high school and Anne’s freshman year of college. We dated for five years through college. A year after we graduated, we got engaged and then we got married 4 months later. We have now been married for five years, but realized this year that we have spent more than half of our lives as a couple! We are each other’s best friends and we love each other more as time goes on. We are very supportive of each other and our goals and dreams both as individuals and as a couple.

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Religion played a large role in both of our lives when we were younger. We both attended Sunday school and church regularly. As adults we don’t regularly attend church, but still have faith and believe that everything happens for a reason. The stories that we learned from the Bible helped to teach us many lessons and we would like to pass those on to our child someday.

Fun and Relaxation! We love to spend time together. We enjoy traveling and learning about different places, cultures, and food. We also like to kayak during the warmer months. Jacob enjoys doing a variety of outdoor activities: hunting, fishing, camping, snowshoeing and learning about wilderness survival. Anne enjoys crocheting, crafting and reading. We enjoy going to the beach and finding new places to explore. We love to play with our dog, Irie and during the colder months, we like to cuddle up on the couch and watch a good movie or tv show.

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Views about Discipline: We understand that discipline is necessary, but feel that communication is key. We feel that we should be able to talk to our child and help them to understand why a certain behavior may be unacceptable. They might be required to have a time out or cool down period for them to think about their behavior. However, having the conversation with them after that period will be crucial to help them build a strong foundation for future behaviors. We also feel that at times, children need to fail or have a disappointment to learn from their mistakes, but at other times, children should also be redirected or given options to choose from to help them learn how to navigate making good decisions about how to appropriately behave or respond to a situation.

Our feelings about education: We feel that education is a very critical to helping our child develop. We consider ourselves lifelong learners and believe that you learn something new every day. Working with our child to help them find their interests and making sure they receive a well rounded education is very important to us. We both were the first in our immediate families to complete a four year college degree, and value education very highly.

Our Values: We value honesty, trustworthiness, integrity, a strong work ethic, empathy toward others, respectfulness, and caring.

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Our Home: We live in a cozy 3 bedroom, 1 bathroom home on a dead end road about 10 minutes outside of Grand Rapids. We share our home with our dog, a four year old Shih Tzu named Irie. We have a small garden that we plant each spring in order to have fresh vegetables throughout the summer. Our neighborhood has a wide variety of families of different races, ethnicities, and ages. We currently have multiple families that live in our neighborhood who have children. We live very near the library, a park, the local elementary school, and several outdoor spaces that we spend time at. Our plans for the future are to hopefully stay in our current home for a few more years and then move to a home that is a little bit bigger.

Family and Friends: We are both very close with our families. We have a good relationship with all of our parents. While growing up, each of our families spent a lot of time with our grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins. We are still very close with much of our family and enjoy seeing each other. We spend a lot of time with Anne’s sister, Elizabeth, who only lives five minutes away from our home. We also have a small close knit group of friends that we try to see regularly.

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Again, thank you. We have a lot of love to share and would be honored to welcome your child into our family and our home as potential adoptive parents.

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For more information about this family, call or text our on-call worker at 616.451.0245, or email cathyr@greaterhopes.org